Non-Marital Birth rates (from roughly 5% in 1966)
Co habitation is a now a becoming universal in
% who marry without cohabiting first
Corelation b/t hight divorce when co habiting before marriage.
High divorce high in west:
Divorce Rates 2006
United Kingdom – 43%
European average – c 40%
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u know... cohabitation is not what people think it is. One of my community college professors who is actually an outspoken atheist said that she would NOT recommend cohabitation to anyone. It causes more problems than a marriage.
Really, like what?
First of all the common reason is that cohabitation is a trial marriage. Other reasons may be that some people believe that 'marriage' is a personal choice and that state/religion or govt should not get involved
- Marriage is based on trust, mutual respect, serious commitment and it takes humility, compassion among others. Deciding whether u want to commit to a person can be scary and takes a step of faith. Cohabitation as a trial marriage does not work becuz it isnt based on those mentioned above. There's more arguments becuz people who enter into it tend to do it casually.
- Legal things - if a guy leaves his live-in pregnant girlfriend, he has no obligation for child support or such unless the girl proves that he is the father of the child. Usually cohabited couples that are separating tend to fight over what belongs to whom. In an actual divorce, the court splits and theres a procedure. But in cohabitation, there is not much of a legal binding. Either the guy or girl can take away everything and leave the partner with nothing (unless they are also co-signed) Usually in most cases, one takes it all.
- In most cases, usually the woman suffers from that. Thats my prof. said. In majority of the cases thats what happens, even though its possible for the other way.
- In some states here, if a cohabited couple is living together and claiming to be dependents...after a certain time period, they are considered married by the state. It depends where u are.
- There are others. But for me it doesnt make sense when you are unsure of commitment but okay with using the other person till u move on to greener pasture. To me that hurts both the guy and girl. Those were my views even long before I was a Christian.
I guess that explains the correlation between divorce and co hab...
Hey, can you give your previous comments? For some reason, they are not posted...
actually it was the same comment but my computer messed up, and posted it three times so i deleted them.
On final thought, if my boyfriend told me, "I'm not sure about marriage. I'd like to but not sure now.." I'd be completely okay with it. I'd like his honesty, openess. Then if we'd try to work it out. If not, we'll have to go our separate ways. And life goes on.
but if my boyfriend said that and then suggest we live together, I'd be offended because it's equivalent to telling me, "I'm not sure if I can commit to u, but I'm completely okay with using you till then." It shows lack of respect towards the other person. Cohabitation is driven by selfish motivation.
Totally! So when is the wedding day for you?
hahahaha... no clue. Only God knows.
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